Tending to what's within reach, softening the questions, and trusting the journey onward.
MONTHLY REMINDERReader, the bad news is: there are an astonishing amount of things completely out of our control; the good news is: there are an astonishing amount of things completely within our control. The bad news: there are countless things beyond our grasp — other people’s choices, life’s sudden turns, the weather of fate itself. The good news: there are just as many things we do hold in our hands — our responses, our rituals, our breath, our way of telling our story. Freedom lives in that delicate threshold: surrendering to what we cannot bend, while fiercely tending to what we can. REFLECTION PROMPTS:
SEPTEMBER'S REFLECTION PROMPTIn September, I will release the grip of needing to know ‘why’ by… Sometimes the deepest peace comes not from an answer, but from loosening our grip on the question. The ache of “why did this happen?” can keep us circling pain, when what we long for is release, breath, and the possibility of what next. September invites us to step into the unknown with gentleness, to trust that not all mysteries are meant to be solved; some are meant to be carried with grace. 2 QUOTES WORTH PONDERING
“Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final.” Source: Poem 'Go to the Limits of Your Longing' REFLECTION PROMPTS:
2. Novelist Paulo Coelho on the twin teachers: “Only two things can reveal life's great secrets: suffering and love” Source: Coelho's novel 'Aleph' REFLECTION PROMPTS:
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(STILL) POPULAR IN AUGUSTBLOG POST + PODCAST EPISODE: Five Soul Wounds and Grief In June, I explored the five soul wounds—abandonment, rejection, betrayal, injustice, and humiliation—and how they quietly shape our relationships, self-perception, and healing journeys. The blog post offered a deeper dive into their origins and impact, while the podcast held space for raw reflections and embodied insight. If you’ve ever wondered why some pain feels ancestral, primal, or hard to name, this is a sound place to begin. (a 60-minute listen)
INSTAGRAM (@noticingwithrebeccamonique and @rbccmnq) BREAST CANCERIn early August I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I shared openly about it on Instagram – the loss, grief, trauma, inner-healing and self-care that comes with it – and from that delicate space I created what I needed most: a reflective journal to walk me through the first 30 days. 30 Days Through Breast Cancer will be available in September as a free resource for anyone affected. Please feel welcome to pass it on to those who may need it. Thankfully my diagnosis was early, and my focus is on treatment, healing and deep listening to my body. You can find more about my journey and resources on my breast cancer page. As an advocate for early detection, I’ll also be including monthly reminders to check your breasts, starting today; you can learn the key signs and symptoms here . Early detection saves lives. COMING IN 2026Daughter of the Soil -Volume 1 is a collection of 12 reflective essays on grief, healing, womanhood, and race—rooted in memory, ancestral ache, and quiet becoming. Each piece is an offering, a mirror, and a soft rebellion against invisibility. Muse-letter subscribers will be the first to know when it’s released into the world. SPOTIFY PLAYLISTSSoul-stirring. Empowering. Wholesome. This one’s for the moments when you remember who you are. A musical exhale—part prayer, part power, part poetic awakening. Let it carry you into the marrow of your truth, especially on days when you forget how luminous you’ve always been.
Griefy. A playlist for the ache that won’t be rushed. 'Griefy' is a tender companion for the days when your heart feels too full, too empty, or both at once. These songs don’t try to fix it—they sit with you in the softness, the silence, the sacred unraveling.
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MONTHLY REMINDER Reader, your body is not an inconvenience — it is a compass. Rest. Listen to your body’s wisdom. It is not betraying you — it is beckoning you. Calling you back to care. To movement, to stillness, to being held. To tenderness and ease. You don’t have to prove your strength every single day. You can honour the softness. REFLECTION PROMPTS: What is my body trying to tell me today — and how can I respond with care rather than correction? Where in my life have I confused...
MONTHLY REMINDER Reader, you don’t need a sign—you are the signal. There is power in choosing yourself, in declaring the reset, in deciding this is the moment. Let July be the permission slip you write with your own hand to begin again, to course-correct. Mid-year is not too late, too far gone, or too messy. It’s a doorway. Step through as many times as you need. REFLECTION PROMPTS: Where in my life do I crave a fresh beginning, no permission required? What would I do differently if I truly...
MONTHLY REMINDER Reader, your intuition is a gift, not a glitch. That quiet knowing, that gentle tug, that whisper you almost ignored—it’s not a malfunction, it’s a message. Trust the parts of you that sense the shift before there’s proof; they were built to guide you home. REFLECTION PROMPTS: When was the last time I trusted myself without needing to explain why? What signals does my intuition use to speak to me—and do I honour them? What would change if I treated my inner knowing as sacred,...