Regret, green flags, and reuniting with your tribe.
MONTHLY REMINDERReader, regret will haunt you more than failure. Do the thing. Have the conversation. Express your gratitude. Show them you care. Take the leap of faith. Make the decision. REFLECTION PROMPTS:
JULY'S REFLECTION PROMPTIn July, I will starve unhelpful thoughts by reminding myself… Don’t believe everything you think. 2 QUOTES WORTH PONDERING1. Molly Burford’s incomplete list of green flags: "People who tell tough truths in gentle ways.
The little-things-oriented. Big-picture thinkers.
Dreamers. Deep feelers. Old souls. Young spirits.
Goofballs. Those who don’t make you choose
between what’s right for you and what’s most convenient for them.
Someone who listens to understand, and doesn’t just wait their turn to speak. The ones you can share comfortable silences with. Loud laughers. Quiet do-gooders. Folks who can admit when they’re wrong or don’t know something. Those who understand their privilege. Someone who isn’t afraid to take the last slice of pizza. Anyone who makes you forget your phone. Anyone who makes you remember that lovely things still exist."
REFLECTION PROMPTS:
2. Poet Alex Aubrey on authenticity (taken from the book Learning to Love Myself):
"Be yourself
so the people
looking for you
can find you."
REFLECTION PROMPTS:
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