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MONTHLY REMINDER

Reader, silence can be sacred—but don’t confuse suppression for stillness.

REFLECTION PROMPTS:

  • What have I been silencing that wants voice?
  • Is my quiet a sanctuary or a hiding place?

MAY'S REFLECTION PROMPT

In May, I will return to...

Return to what steadies you, what sings to your bones, what reminds you of your own becoming. Not everything you left behind was a loss—some things were simply waiting for your readiness.


2 QUOTES WORTH PONDERING

1. Spiritual teacher, Eckhart Tolle on not having all the answers:

"Sometimes, surrender means giving up trying to understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing."

REFLECTION PROMPTS:

  • Where in my life am I trying to control the outcome, rather than trusting the process? Can I allow myself to sit with the unknown, even if it feels uncomfortable?
  • What would it feel like to let go of the need for answers, and simply rest in the mystery? How can I give myself permission to not have it all figured out?
  • How does surrender show up for me? In moments of uncertainty, where can I embrace trust over understanding?

2. Writer, Virginia Woolf on the courage it takes to truly live:

"You cannot find peace by avoiding life."

REFLECTION PROMPTS:

  • Where in my life am I choosing avoidance over engagement? What might I be protecting myself from—and at what cost?
  • What truth have I been tiptoeing around, hoping it will disappear? What would it mean to face it with courage and compassion?
  • What does peace look like when I meet life fully – grief, joy, uncertainty and all? How can I practise presence, even when it’s uncomfortable?

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