Practising self-love, simplifying the complicated, and letting intention be lived.
MONTHLY REMINDERReader, the most enduring love is the one you practise daily with yourself. February often frames love as something to seek, secure, or perform for others. But the love that steadies you over time is quieter and closer. It shows up in how you speak to yourself, the permissions you give yourself to rest or try again, and the small choices that protect your energy and dignity. This month invites you to practise a form of love that doesn’t require an audience. REFLECTION PROMPTS:
FEBRUARY'S REFLECTION PROMPTIn February, I will simplify what feels complicated by… When things feel tangled, it’s often not because they’re too complex, but because we’re trying to hold too much at once. February invites a quieter kind of discernment: noticing what actually needs attention now, and what can be softened, delayed, or let go of. Simplifying is about creating enough space to move with steadiness and attentiveness. 2 QUOTES WORTH PONDERING
“Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.” REFLECTION PROMPTS:
2. Behavioural designer and author Nir Eyal on interrupting overthinking and choosing forward motion: 1. I don’t need certainty to act.
2. If it’s reversible, I decide fast.
3. I choose one next step, not ten.
4. I don’t solve feelings; I surf them.
5. My thoughts are not instructions.
6. Action creates clarity, not thought.
7. I write it down so my brain can rest.
8. I’m allowed to move with partial information.
9. I give myself a deadline, then choose.
10. I ask, “What’s the next visible action?”
11. I schedule thinking so that I don’t spiral.
12. I trade rumination for one small experiment.
13. I let future-me correct, not present-me freeze.
14. I’m aiming for progress, not the perfect plan.
15. I ask, “What would this look like if it were easy?”
16. I accept that some questions stay open while I move.
17. I notice loops and ask, “Is this helping or just hindering?”
18. I’m the kind of person who stops rehearsing and starts doing.
19. If it won’t matter in five years, it doesn’t get this much brain space.
20. I’d rather be roughly right in motion than stuck perfecting ideas.
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INTENTION WORDSHow are your intention words going? At the start of the year, my three intention words were Simplify, Invest, and Prune, with Restraint and Space sitting quietly as sub-words. What I’ve noticed over the past month is that those “sub-words” were never secondary. They were governing principles all along. Restraint has become the core ethic. The question it keeps asking is simple and clarifying: What is this for? This is what intention looks like when it’s alive. It evolves. It clarifies. It teaches you how to live the word, not just name it. If you’ve chosen an intention word for the year, I’d love to hear how it’s unfolding for you. You’re warmly invited to press reply and share your word. Next month, I’ll share a selection of intention words from this community, anonymously, as a way of noticing the collective themes emerging. If you're new here, welcome. The Word That Finds You: Intention, Magic, and the Power of Naming Your Year is the first essay shared from my forthcoming anthology, Daughter of the Soil. It explores intention not as a goal or resolution, but as something we listen for. A word that arrives through experience and truth, shaping how we live rather than what we try to achieve. Alongside the essay, I’ve created the Intention Words Workbook — a reflective guide to choosing and living an intention word in a grounded, embodied way. It includes an Intention Word Library of 250 carefully curated words, designed to be moved through slowly, until a word meets you. You can read the essay, and download the workbook and word library here. Move through it in your own time. There’s no right pace. Sometimes the word reveals itself slowly. Sometimes it’s already been living with us quietly. NOW AVAILABLE
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